We are all so in rush. At best, our activity and presence is just that, activity! Being physically present doesnt mean we are fully engaged. Giving yourself in little pieces helps no one, including yourself. You starve emotionally and intrinsically, your soul is never at rest, and not much gets accomplished. However, being present, and fully attentive to one thing at a time, enriches your experience, helps you to grow exponentially, and is far more rewarding in any aspect of life that you can imagine.
" People who have moved from a bad financial situation into comfort or wealth have resilience. They can overcome-on the job, in their personal lives, with their finances. They don't deny the bad things that happen, but they're able to turn their focus to things over which they have no control with the belief that they have the ability to effect change. The good news is you dont have to be born with resilence- you can learn it by controlling the thin gs you can control and letting go of the others."
These phrases are gold during a negotiation, says Lon Babby, a sports attorney based in Washington,D.C., Who represents more than 40 professional athletes and coaches.
SAY " PLEASE CORRECT ME IF I'M WRONG, BUT..." to humbly tell the other side something you know without provoking an argument.
SAY " I APPRECIATE WHAT YOU'VE DONE, BUT..." to acknowledge the other sides concessions while asking for more.
SAY " I HAVE A COUPLE OF QUESTIONS?" to inquire directly about the intentions of the party pitching .
SAY " LET ME SEE IF I UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU ARE SAYING" to make the other sides statements sound more reasonable.
SAY " ONE SOLUTION MIGHT BE" to indicate your willingness to find middle ground.
SAY " LET ME GET BACK TO YOU" to consider the proposition. if the proposition is good today it will be be equally good tomorrow.
We all have power over how to negotiate and clearly articulate what we want and must say to other humans. It takes a minute to rephrase, focus and create an open ended question that gets results.
I think we all have experienced the emptiness of success. Success, or at least the definition of success is very tricky.
As of late, I have made the conscious choice to redefine what I think this feeling of accomplishment is in my life. I have chose to name it SIGNIFICANCE. Success began to feel so insatiable to me. How could I ever be satisfied. However, if I strive to be significant, that's a different story. So recently I have become more mindful of being significant, and this is what I have discovered:
That I could use my time to help others, because this story is not all about me.
I found more significance in the BEING instead of the DOING AND GETTING..
That my desire to help others reach their potential was very pleasurable instead of projecting my own agenda. And at the end of the day I got what I needed anyway, and more.
I could concentrate on really important works of art that INSPIRE others because I wasn't invested in my success.
That really being present with those I am around and care about made the experience very significant.
It help me have more gratitude for the things that I may have considered insignificant.
This new mindset overtime gave me more personal power and satisfaction because I could literally give myself away with no expectations of being successful...by being significant.
So maybe we all should consider taking the "significant" vs the " successful " challenge. Think about the things that you do to be successful on your job, financially, in your relationships or any aspect of your life. And then consider what your CONTRIBUTION is- that is, being present and really considering the other person and "the how" You do what you do. Thinking " what can I give- who can I touch- what need can I fill-what information can I share- who can I lead to what-to who or what they need...now that's significant.
And think- I have all I need, I am always taken care of, I am protected and fortified.
Ciao, make right now significant.